Omission

Omission –noun
1. the act of omitting.
2. the state of being omitted.
3. something left out, not done, or neglected: an important omission in a report.

I cannot lie. I just really can’t. It is one of those things that I just totally suck at. If someone asks me a direct question I am 90% most likey to tell the truth. No matter how much trouble it will get me into. Last year in April when Bob asked me who I was talking to so much since the T-mobile guy hat ratted me out about Dick I could have lied. If I were able to. But since I am not I totally spilled the beans. And then hence my emotional summer.

Now omission. I can do that. Omitting information (leaving out certain details) I can do that. I can do it to your face, I can do it on the phone, it is easy for me. The problem is that I have come to the conclusion that omitting certain information becomes just a trickier form of lying. Because you still have to keep track of information that you haven’t shared. Now don’t get me wrong. It is totally easier to keep track of info you left out. Since there is a good possibility that you won’t change your mind about someone knowing something you left out you should remember who was omitted what and when. Now, when it comes to omission (while I don’t condone it) I can say that if you are going to omit important information then make sure you omit it to everyone. My “summer omissions” were not just omitted to the person who was called my husband. I didn’t tell anyone. I left out my family, friends, and even my closest friend was one of the last people to know about it when it did finally come out. So I can say that omitting things can be easy just make sure that you don’t tell anyone. Better that way.

Now with all that said I find that omitting information is just as bad and almost worse than lying. Here is why. My method of not telling anyone kinda blows up in my face when the information comes out and it becomes a tell everyone about the badness. Then you have to decide how deep are you in, and how much are you going to share. Are you going to share some, and omit some? It is an interesting game, and eventually my blogger friends it always comes out. No matter what. It may be days, months, or years, but most likely it will come out. And it is a terrible tragedy when it does. Because if you did it to prevent others from being hurt guess what? Well now not only have you hurt people, but they know you lied. Even if it was a lie of omission. And it still hurts, and they don’t care about your reasons, or your motives (no matter how virtuous and good they may have been). When it comes right down to it, people will say that they would rather be hurt than have you delay the pain. Since they are gonna get hurt no matter what why not just lay it on them right? Just makes more sense.

Well now in that regard I disagree. Sometimes delaying hurting someone with omission (not straight out lying cause I hate that) But just leaving out certain facts, this may actually be better. Sometimes people aren’t in a good state of mind to absorb the particulars of something and maybe it will be better if they hear it later. You can explain your motives (provided they aren’t entirely selfish) and you may actually be able to get people to understand why you did it. I promise that sometimes Omission has its place. Sometimes it doesn’t.

Now what is this whole tireless post of unending advice about lying and omission? Well since I lived the lies of omission thing last summer, and still upon occasion choose to leave certain information out based on my need to not hurt others (I really hate hurting people) I am going to say that this post is about using omission properly with good and loving intentions. Rather than the selfish ones most people use them for. Last summer my intentions were not to hurt anyone with my relationship with Dick so I omitted that he and I were talking, I left out information about my trip that never got to happen when I was going to go see him and then attend a wedding for my brother. When I was found out I fessed up. And it took a while, not just because there was a lot of information. But because I had to tell lots of people about it since I had kept it solely to myself.

I will say that my intentions last summer weren’t all of a loving and non hurtful nature. I wanted to keep my secret because I was happy, and I didn’t want anyone to mess with my happy. It had been so long since I had felt happy that I just wanted to hold onto it as long as I could. Since that happiness was not meant to be, and I have new and better happiness I see that GOD works inmysterious ways. If I wait long enough he will show me where to go.

Sending my love and my thoughts to all of you,
Lady X

Little Lies – Fleetwood Mac

If I could turn the page
In time then I’d rearrange just a day or two
Close my, close my, close my eyes

But I couldn’t find a way
So I’ll settle for one day to belive in you
Tell me, tell me, tell me lies

Tell me lies
Tell me sweet, little lies
(Tell me lies, tell me, tell me lies)
Oh, no, no you can’t disguise
(You can’t disguise, no you can’t disguise)
Tell me lies
Tell me sweet little lies

Although I’m not making plans
I hope that you understand there’s a reason why
Close your, close your, close your eyes

No more broken hearts
We’re better off apart, let’s give it a try
Tell me, tell me, tell me lies

Tell me lies
Tell me sweet, little lies
(Tell me lies, tell me, tell me lies)
Oh, no, no you can’t disguise
(You can’t disguise, no you can’t disguise)
Tell me lies
Tell me sweet little lies

[Instrumental]

If I could turn the page
In time then I’d rearrange just a day or two
Close my, close my, close my eyes

But I couldn’t find a way
So I’ll settle for one day to belive in you
Tell me, tell me, tell me lies

Tell me lies
Tell me sweet little lies
(Tell me lies, tell me, tell me lies)
Oh, no, no you can’t disguise
(You can’t disguise, no you can’t disguise)

Tell me lies
Tell me sweet little lies
(Tell me lies, tell me, tell me lies)
Oh, no, no you can’t disguise
(You can’t disguise, no you can’t disguise)
Tell me lies
Tell me sweet little lies
(Tell me, tell me lies)
FADES OUT

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